Forgive for Freedom

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Letting Go of Unforgiveness: Unlocking the Path to Your Desires

Let’s chat about something that affects us all at one point or another: unforgiveness. It’s that nagging feeling you get when someone has wronged you, and instead of letting it go, you find yourself holding on tightly. But did you know that this emotional baggage could be blocking your path to what you truly desire—be it health, wealth, love, or happiness? Let’s dive into this and see how we can shift things around.

What’s the Deal with Unforgiveness?

So, what exactly is unforgiveness? It’s that stubborn refusal to let go of feelings of resentment or anger toward someone who hurt you. Sure, it’s natural to feel hurt and angry when someone wrongs us, but clinging to those feelings can do more harm than good. It’s like dragging around a heavy backpack filled with rocks—it’s exhausting and pointless.

The Weight of Holding Grudges

Think about it: when you’re stuck in a cycle of resentment, it weighs you down. You’re not just carrying emotional baggage; you’re also blocking your energy. This low-frequency vibe can drain your life force, making it hard to attract the good stuff—like healthy relationships, money, or happiness.

Read this and let it settle in: when you hold onto that grudge, you’re allowing the person who hurt you to continue causing you pain. If you were a child when the hurt happened, remember, you weren’t responsible for it. You’re the one suffering while they’ve moved on, likely without even a second thought about the damage they caused.

Unforgiveness and the Nature of Justice

It’s also important to recognize that anyone who has done a dark deed cannot prosper in the long run. They carry their own unease, guilt, and pain that they will have to face eventually. Trust that they won't get away with it; the universe has a way of balancing things out. But here's the catch: it’s not your responsibility to fix them or make them feel worse. Your focus should be on your own healing.

My experience of mental, physical and sexual abuse as a small child has taken me down this road of unforgiveness in the most profound ways. However until I allowed myself to soften and rise up with courage to love me more than I was loving on the bitterness and unforgiveness, I was not able to find love and joy in my heart and be living the dream life I want. I can now be of support to so many women who need help being lifted from these dark clutches to find freedom and strength on the other side.

Ready for a Change?

If you’re finding it hard to even think about forgiving someone, that’s completely okay! A great first step is to simply ask the universe to show you how to begin. It’s like opening a door for new possibilities. You’ll be surprised at what comes your way when you set that intention.

Steps to Let Go of Unforgiveness

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Start by recognizing what you’re feeling. Write it down or talk it out with a friend. Let those feelings surface; they deserve to be heard.

2. Shift Your Mindset: Remember, forgiveness isn’t about excusing someone’s behavior; it’s about freeing yourself. When you forgive, you’re giving yourself the gift of peace.

3. Practice Compassion: Try to understand where the other person was coming from. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with their actions, but a little empathy can go a long way in softening your heart.

4. Take Action: Whether it’s writing a letter, having a conversation, or simply saying "I forgive you" in your heart, take that step. Each small act of forgiveness lightens your load.

Turning Pain into Purpose

The whole experience of dealing with unforgiveness can serve as fuel for your growth. It teaches you lessons about resilience, compassion, and self-worth. This newfound strength can empower you to support others who find themselves in similar situations. Your journey through healing can inspire those around you, showing them that it is possible to let go and move forward.

I said it already, but hear it is a again.

Living in unforgiveness seriously blocks the flow of health, wealth, love, and happiness in your life. It’s draining and keeps you stuck in a low-frequency state that makes it impossible to consistently attract what you genuinely deserve. By choosing to let go, even if it’s just a little bit, you’re opening the door to a world of possibilities. Remember, forgiveness is a journey, and every step you take brings you closer to a more vibrant, fulfilling life. So, what do you say? Let’s start the journey together!